Dealing with grief.

Grief is a pain in the mind that arises due to either personal loss, misfortune, or bereavement. Grief can affect a person’s stability. People may show it in different forms, while others prefer to deal with it within.

There is no particular way a person may grieve. Some do it wrongly, which can affect their mental health, while others may have an understanding on how to deal with it.

Grieving itself is not a bad thing. It is natural and we have no initial control over it. In the case of losing someone, we pass through different waves of emotions: shock, anger, disbelief, and sadness.

Most people’s physical activity might be affected. They may find it difficult to sleep, eat, or interact as often with people. The most common cause of grief is the loss of someone.

This particular cause can weigh a person down for a long period of time. Most people pretend on the outside but go through pain when no one is watching.

There are different causes of grief;

1. – Grief due to health challenges.

– Grief due to financial problems

– Grief due to unemployment or loss of a job.

– Grief due to the loss of a loved one.

-Most of the time, we grieve when leaving home.

The grief of losing a loved one

After losing someone close to you, it feels like your life won’t remain the same again, but as time goes on, you may begin to cope. This is sometimes different for some people.

Some may act a certain way after a loss and may sometimes need to attend therapy to get back on track.

How People React to Grieve

1. Many people conceal grief. People say the pain will go away if you ignore it. If this isn’t the case, concealing it will cause more harm and delay the healing process.

2. Most times, in some African homes where the father figure dies, they usually tell the children (mostly the elder ones) to stay strong for their mother. Most times, the reverse is the case.

Trying to stay strong is most often not the solution. It is okay to feel sad and it is okay to cry. It is a normal reaction and it doesn’t mean something is wrong with you.

Most of the time, sharing your feelings with family members can help you all cope.

3. Most people handle grief well by trying to move on with their lives. It is not bad as long as you have already accepted the loss.

Moving on doesn’t mean forgetting. Reminiscing about the past and good memories shared together might help some people.

How To Deal With Grief

1. Acknowledge that the person is gone and that you are in pain.

2. Recognize that everyone’s grieving process is unique.

3. Seek help if you’re finding it really difficult to cope.

4. Hold on to the beautiful memories you spent with the person.

5. Grief is not depression. If grieving goes on for too long, it might lead a person to depression.

6. Pray to God for comfort. Read God’s promises in the Bible and pray to Him. Be rest assured the person is in a better place if he or she has lived according to God’s will on earth.

When grieving, do not neglect your health. Most people find it difficult to sleep. If that is the case, seek medical help and avoid taking sleeping tablets, else the body might get used to it.

Many people tend to leave God after the loss of someone. They usually blame Him. We should understand that no man can understand the ways of God.

We should trust Him and turn to Him for our comfort.